Ah, I see, I thought you were talking about technical difficulties or instances being hard to find, but you rather meant habits or mindsets making it hard. I really get that.
But then it's cool that so many people still decided to join the fediverse, which is, after all, a way smaller network than the big corporate platforms. 😃 Maybe this habit of going for big numbers changes when people get used to the fediverse.

I also get the FOMO due to defederation thing, it definitely makes sense. But imho spreading out over several more instances could even help here.
Defederating will always exist, but if there are a lot of small instances and one of them decides to block another one, people on this instance would only lose contact to a fraction of the total content of the fediverse.
However, if there are only a few big instances and one decides to block another, people would get seperated from a whole lot of content.

I do see the issue, however, that if you are interested in some specific communities that are on a specific instance and yours, for whatever reason, decides to defederate just from this one, you would lose contact to exactly those communities you follow.
At least I think that's the way it is. It could also be that you could still follow the communities from a blocked insance and still post and see the majority of posts in it, but you just don't see posts and comments from users of the blocked instance. I really don't know.
Either way, Lemmy and kbin are both in early developement stage and if this issue exists there might be a solution for this in the future. 😃
And let's say the problem does exist and you don't want to stay on an instance that's blocking your favourite community, I think emotionally it's easier to move from one small instance to another small one than it is to move from a big to a small one. 😊

Genuine question, why is it hard?

Here is a small list of instances if you two want to look into it some more. :) I wouldn't recommend joining bookwyrm.social though, as it's the biggest one and can be a bit slow sometimes. Also, it's more in the spirit of the fediverse to spread out over several smaller instances. :D

She wouldn't need to host her own instance. Like for Lemmy, kbin or Mastodon there are plenty of Bokwyrm instances with open registrations for everyone.
And they all federate with each other and the rest of the fediverse. Which is also good, because books have to be added to the instances manually, but thanks to federation there are already many books added that also federeate between instances (sometimes you just have to import the full book data from elsewhere with one click). Only if it's a very niche book you might have to add it completely, which is fun though imo, because it helps Bookwyrm grow.
And there is the possibility to import your reading data from Goodreads. :)

There is Goldfish, which was started with beeing some sort of TikTok alternative in mind. But it's stuck in a very early stage and doesn't seem to be developed anymore. If I remember correctly the Admin started it as a practice for themself to get more into Activity Pub.
They have a Mastodon account and a github page, maybe you can ask them there if they plan to develop it further. And since it is open source and can be forked by anyone and everyone can contribute to it, maybe someone will be found who is interested in continuing to work on the project.

On Goldfish's github page I also found Vidzy by accident, where developement seems to be more active. However, I found no active instances so far where one could test it.

Für kurze Strecken das Fahrrad, vor allem, wenn ich durch den Wald fahren kann.

Für längere Strecken der Zug aus ähnlichen Gründen, wie du es beschreibst. Ich liebe es einfach, mich dort zurücklehnen zu können und mich um nichts kümmern zu müssen. Die vorbeiziehende Landschaft zu beobachten, Podcasts oder Musik zu hören, zu lesen, die Augen zuzumachen... :)

Ich glaube leider, dass sogar kompetenteren Leuten als Scheuer die Unterscheidung da immer schwerer fällt.

Yes that was the point I was trying to make. He is hoping for success and growth of his brand / software no matter at what costs this might come. Also I think it is very naive of him to believe that Mastodon would benefit of a cooperation with meta in the long run.
And in his hope for fame for his brand and his own instance he doesn't seem to care for smaller instances or the fediverse in general and the other fediverse software.

I think at least Gargron / Eugen Rochko is, for a start, happy enough with the big attention his brand is getting and with the growth of Mastodon he's hoping for. I have the feeling that he wants Mastodon to be recognized as one of the big players. We'll see what comes next.

I think they should at least move away from Twitter entirely.

Guild Wars 2 was welcoming and including LGBTIAQ* folks from the start and has a huge and wonderful LGBTIAQ* community.
And with staying on Twitter they support a platform and its owner who is purposefully supporting and even promoting right wing anti-queer and anti-trans politics (DeSantis) and is explicitly allowing hate against queer people, especially trans folks. And I don't think this is something ArenaNet wants or should be doing.

Actually, I think this is something nobody should be wanting or doing.

Spoiler warning

Just finished the main story and was admittedly a bit shocked about Neyrelle leaving her friends and going on by herself with the soulstone. It left me with a lot of questions and I am really curious about what this is all about and what her plans are. Nice to get a bit more information though, but in the end I hope that we don't have to fight Neyrelle in any later story updates.

Habe dieses Argument eh noch nie verstanden. So gut wie jede größere Stadt hat doch schon jetzt mindestens eine große Fußgänger*innen-Zone und offensichtlich sind die alle alles andere als ausgestorben, und die Geschäfte dort sind alle bestens besucht. Warum sollte das bei neuen Fußgänger*innen-Zonen daher anders sein?

Happy to hear that my offer is appreciated. :)

Unfortunately I realized that your comment is the only one I can see so far on my instance (kbin.cafe) even though there are some other comments as well which I saw on the original instance of the community. Seems like the federation isn’t working well here. :(

So, if I happen to not answer to any questions: I’m not ignoring you, it’s probably rather some federation issues that are getting in our way. But I’m confident that this will get better with further development. :)