People who have to get everyone involved in their own drama, enough. If it’s a tiny argument, just take it to messages, call, or face-to-face.

Jessica, you don’t have to say your boyfriend beat you because he has a habit you don’t like.

Suzanne, you don’t have to scream about a tiny argument to friends and even strangers in restaurants and stores.

I’m not talking about serious issues even, just genuinely minor stuff that could be resolved by communication. You don’t have to blow it out of proportion, complain to everyone, or lie about what someone did. Try to message, call, anything.

like I knew a male host with almost all-male alters.

I've seen the quote a lot.

Ones with a lot of communities

I genuinely don’t know how to give a good response. Especially, (I’ve had this happen before) when I secretly like the person they’re talking about and don’t wanna ruin the friendship. (That’s why my feelings are secret)

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I just thought of random topics to do. The name is obviously a portmanteau of credit and Reddit, and I was thinking that “60 votes” would be like gaining 60 credit, so I guess that’s what the karma could be called if this were a site.

An upvote can be like a “credit boost”, perhaps? I had this mainly in mind for Latin American communities/culture, but it can be for people all over the world.

Foreign languages can be spoken, as long as they stay on the community that speaks that language. For example, speaking Portuguese on a language that allows it, but not on one that says “Only speak English”.

The site will also be anti-discrimination, and will result in severe punishment to your account if you say something discriminatory against minorities.

I also plan for Creddit to kind of have more “free speech” and be more lenient with moderation than Reddit, but still anti-bullying, harassment, etc.

Feel free to give ideas, ask questions, idk how interesting this is.

I’ve been studying Portuguese for almost two years. By fifteen years, I obviously hope to be fluent.

I do have an English-speaking friend who lives in Brazil, and she complained about her (mandatory) English teacher not pronouncing the words right, but I happen to be a native speaker, so I probably would pronounce them better than her teacher.

I’ve only met one person who spoke Portuguese where I live, and though I would be put through a less complex process to just stay in the United States, I’m not actually sure how many people would come.

For example, in Chicago, there are Polish schools, which are definitely more useful than Portuguese classes.

I do notice people on the Internet from Brazil wanting to get better at English. IF I end up following through in 15 years or so, would it be better to teach in Brazil?

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I found it on some post about a guy that another guy didn’t like on Reddit bc he spoke Russian. My friend doesn’t know what a qwar is, nor do I, nor does OP. Is it a typo?

Back in 2022, I was obsessed with anime. I forgot who, but I definitely had an anime character as my PFP on Discord.

Anyway, someone with an anime PFP sent me a friend request with an invite to a server. “You like anime, wanna join our server?”

The server appeared to be a casual discussion server ages 13+ mainly about anime, gaming, and Western animation. It was also a place to “make online friends”.

The server used a lot of pink emojis, such as saying in their about section, “💖🌸This is a safe place, tell us anything and we won’t judge!💓💝”

The mods were also 15 (youngest) to 24 (oldest), so keep that in mind, and was mostly moderated by guys from what I remember.

In 2022, I also happened to be quite depressed (but I am much better). When one of the mods asked how I was, I told him I was a bit sad but it was fine.

However, this mod insisted it was not fine and kept spamming my DMs, begging me to tell him what was wrong.

He said he would give me advice if I told him. So all I said is, “I kinda miss my friend :/ I haven’t seen them in a while, I hope they’re ok.” (That was the truth).

He responded with “Erm, why tf would u tell me this 😑?”

Of course, I thought he was joking. This mod also flirted with me a lot, (he said he was my husband/bf) so during those exchanges, he appeared to have edited the profile pictures so that it looked like I flirted with him and that he was the one uncomfortable.

He told his server I harassed him. He also completely fabricated messages and put my profile picture on them so that it looked like I said things that I didn’t. He and the other mods all made fun of me for being mentally ill, too.

Apparently I “trauma dumped, harassed, and bullied him”. Of course, the mods believed him over me because they knew him and were his friends.

They would send voicemails of themselves laughing at my old (and new) messages, saying I was “pathetic scum”.

They then all went on a group call and told me to join. Anxious, I did. They were all laughing hysterically, saying I should do bad things to myself so they could “hear my shrieks”. I left, they banned me from their server, and I blocked every one of those assholes.

These people suck, I genuinely hope that one day, their friends are rude to them so that they know the damage they did. I know it was online, but what the hell?

And to the mods 18 and older, you all are grown adults acting like this. ADULTS. You condone children being like this (15 yr old mod) and you also think it’s okay to be an adult and act this way.

Tried creating another Reddit account with a different phone number. I got banned. I did NOTHING.

Damn mods don’t even tell you why you got shadowbanned? Honestly, what a stupid fucking site ISTFG. I. Did. Nothing. Wrong.

Are these Reddit mods on crack? What the hell.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20942690

Decided that Rant may be a better place for it.

> (First off, I just got banned for viewing the same posts with multiple accounts) > > I frequented the AITA posts and the advice posts, and I saw one from a teenage girl. > > She has a boyfriend, and her male friend wouldn’t leave her alone as he was obsessed with her. > > She kept telling him no and wanted to be just friends with him, until she had to block him. > > The comments were outrageous. Some were saying stuff like “good on you for blocking him. you’re not responsible for his feelings, nta”. > > however, some people were calling her a whore, saying she was seeking validation from other men, that men and women couldn’t be friends. > > I have no idea where they’re drawing this conclusion. I know many women who have male friends with nothing between them. > > And it’s completely plausible for a male friend to have feelings. She can’t control his feelings. She didn’t start dating/making out with him and clearly wasn’t interested in him, so she didn’t cheat. > > they also said she was asking for him to be attracted to her, that it was her fault, etc. > > > They were even saying that the girl was terrible and that the guy was “NTA, not even a little” because he just had a “harmless crush and couldn’t control his feelings” even though he literally asked her to cheat on her bf and guilt-tripped her right before she blocked him? > > This feels kind of gross, poor OP was 15 when she made the post :/ >

(First off, I just got banned for having multiple accounts :/)

I frequented the AITA posts and the advice posts, and I saw one from a teenage girl.

She has a boyfriend, and her male friend wouldn’t leave her alone as he was obsessed with her.

She kept telling him no and wanted to be just friends with him, until she had to block him.

The comments were outrageous. Some were saying stuff like “good on you for blocking him. you’re not responsible for his feelings, nta”.

however, some people were calling her a whore, saying she was seeking validation from other men, that men and women couldn’t be friends.

I have no idea where they’re drawing this conclusion. I know many women who have male friends with nothing between them.

And it’s completely plausible for a male friend to have feelings. She can’t control his feelings. She didn’t start dating/making out with him and clearly wasn’t interested in him, so she didn’t cheat.

they also said she was asking for him to be attracted to her, that it was her fault, etc.

They were even saying that the girl was terrible and that the guy was “NTA, not even a little” because he just had a “harmless crush and couldn’t control his feelings” even though he literally asked her to cheat on her bf and guilt-tripped her right before she blocked him?

This feels kind of gross, poor OP was 15 when she made the post :/

My friend Amelia has been pretty irritable lately. According to Ana, Amelia is obsessed with her.

Amelia gets upset when someone else is sitting next to Ana. Even if that seat is assigned, Amelia gets mad and tells the other person “Excuse me, that’s my seat”.

Amelia doesn’t like sitting with anyone else unless it’s Ana. If someone gives Amelia a gift, she’ll be like, “nah, you keep it”. If Ana, however, takes the gift and gives it to her, she wants it because it’s from Ana.

If Ana tells her not to do something or mildly criticizes Amelia, she gets upset for the rest of the day.

(She can handle criticism, but not from Ana).

Amelia will sometimes ask to go to the bathroom, but is actually leaving class to go to talk to Ana.

Amelia has been in a bad mood for a while and will get in a feeling where she only wants to talk to and only likes Ana and doesn’t care for anyone else.

Amelia even refused to spend time with her friends because of this, as she doesn’t want to be anywhere without Ana.

I kinda feel worried for them both, and I wonder if Amelia will be able to function well (or if Ana will not be annoyed and be able to have her own life sometimes).

I’d assume this is just a typical crush/attachment, but I’m asking for advice because I want to check in, but I don’t know if that’ll be necessary.

I’m also worried because what’ll happen if Ana’s not there and she’s somewhere else? What if she moves away? Knowing Amelia, she would probably fall into a depression :(

Idk whether to post this in Rant or here since I’m sure you guys can relate… maybe

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laughs at boys’ jokes but not the girls

“Ahahaa!! You’re so funny! 😆” if a boy says anything

Just stares at the girl “Do you see me laughing?”

Makes fun of other girls for being bad at sports but tells the guys “at least you tried”

Thinks she’s better at sports than any other girl but is actually just as bad or worse

Thinks she’s the best student

Sucks up to teachers

Bosses students around

“Not now, I’m busy”!

“Don’t talk while the teacher’s talking!” (The teacher probably said they had time to talk to the classmate next to them)

“Autism is so silly!” “I would like to be disabled”

Sighhh

(I don’t need advice, I’m already broken up with her, so I’m kinda just ranting).

Of course, everyone has had that one (or more) crazy/bad ex. As a bi girl, mine was with Rosalie, who I dated around two years ago, so I’m already much broken up with her.

We don’t talk much anymore, but Rosalie seems pretty nice now and I think she’s getting help, thankfully.

When we first met, Rosalie and I were friends. Eventually, she started to continuously joke-flirt with me, and I would flirt back.

Due to the attention she gave me, I started to actually catch feelings for her.

After a while, Rosalie confessed that she had genuine feelings for me and asked if I’d like to go out with her.

I, of course, said yes, and that I liked her too.

The relationship started out in the “honeymoon stage” where we were pretty nice and flirty to each other, but she got more distant as the relationship went on.

She started becoming really dry with her texts and spending more time with her friends than with me. Then, it was her other partner Kate (since we were in an open relationship). However, she also had a crush at school: Ben.

She also apparently hit Ben and gave him a black eye because “she loved him” and stuff like that (which I found out after I found out she was rude) so I probably shouldn’t be surprised.

Anyway, Rosalie always acted really upset with everything, but when I’d ask why, she’d say she was fine.

I gave her some space for a little while, checking on her occasionally.

Rosalie started to go from depressed to passive-aggressive and rude.

This worried me, so I spent as much time away from her as I could. Sometimes, she would be outwardly rude, like calling me a disgusting creep and told me to “shut up”. I stopped talking to her.

On public servers to her online friends, she would even talk behind my back when she apparently thought I wasn’t in the server.

In servers where she was a mod, she would specifically report/delete all my posts for no reason.

It wasn’t so much that I was mad at her being upset, but how she was acting towards me for it. I understood that she had a lot of mental issues, as well as an abusive family. That, I felt bad for, but it didn’t really give her the right to be rude towards me.

Rosalie would switch a lot, though. Sometimes, she would be sweet as can be, telling everyone about her “amazing” partner, who she loved very much. She would tell jokes to me. She would flirt with me, say she loved me. Expressed affection a lot, before going right back to how she was before.

Every bad thing that happened, she got mad at me for and blamed me for it. She would blow things completely out of proportion and believed that everyone was trying to attack her.

Upset at her rude behavior, I would vent about her to my friend Ana and ask her for advice.

After some time passed, I was still going without contact with Rosalie, so I asked the girl who was either her online friend or older sister how she was doing. She told me Rosalie was okay, but was probably going through stuff.

Rosalie then confronted me and told me she knew I was talking bad about her behind her back, and that made me a horrible partner, even though all I asked was if she was okay. I didn’t want to ask her herself for obvious reasons, especially when she told me not to talk to her because I was disgusting.

We were together for nine months. Kate and Rosalie lied that I abused them in every way (disgusting), so I went fully without contact and left every server and group chat after that.

After a while, Rosalie and Kate both apologized and told me they were getting help and that they were in a really bad mental state, and that “2022 was not their year”.

I rejoined a group chat of theirs, which had old chats saying that my being autistic was weird, that I made everyone uncomfortable, and that Rosalie probably dated a creep, etc.

However, I excused this since they posted that around five months ago and never brought it up again.

They welcomed me with open arms and said they missed me, and that they said that because they were very petty 13 & 14-year-olds, but they were never mad at me now.

Rosalie, now 16, I talk to occasionally, and she seems to be getting better. Kate, also now 16, seems to be getting better too, and she’s my girlfriend now. I decided to give her another try since Rosalie did most of it and Kate just tagged along. Both seem really sorry, but I’m ranting about it just to share, and see if anyone else has similar stories.

My BF Jay hardly ever responds to my texts anymore (we are long distance, sadly). He hardly ever expresses affection for me, and our relationship feels more platonic.

He has a list of people who he's grateful for and people he appreciates, etc. I'm never on there, since he always "forgets". I don't want him to feel obligated to, though, so I've learned to ignore it.

He doesn't mention me to anyone, though I excused it as him being private.

He speaks romantically about other girls but not me, as if I'm just his best friend. Eventually, I found on some posts and on his bio that he's been with two girls he didn't tell me about, while simultaneously dating me.

Now, we are in an open relationship, but the deal was we could only date if either of us knew about it. I did not. He's apparently been with these girls for months.

He broke up with Mae, who he dated without my knowledge, then dated Sara. He talks a little about Sara to me now sometimes, but now he says Sara is just his friend.

Not only did he not tell me about either girl, but he, of course, never mentioned me to them, and proceeded to ask them out as if he was single.

IDK how to feel anymore...

Edit: We talked it out :)

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My BF Jay (15M) and I (15F) have been dating for about a year now. Now, we are obviously young, so I’ll probably need different advice than an adult woman.

Anyway, Jay hardly ever says he loves me (though he’s been starting to now, thankfully), reads my texts and never responds, and had another girl’s name in his bio.

One section said “Status: Taken I love my gfs ❤️ Currently dating: Almond [me], Mae [the other girl]”

Of course, I asked him who Mae was, and he said that she’s a girl he’s been into for a while and who he has been seeing. However, he never told me about Mae, and I’m assuming he never tells Mae about me.

At first, I thought he was just a private guy when he never posted about me and never said he had a GF. When he talked about people he was grateful for and people he made stuff for, he never included me.

I want to trust him, but especially with the leaving me on read and being with Mae (who he apparently doesn’t talk to anymore), I need advice on what to do.

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