Childbirth.

I can't watch scenes in movies, tv, mentions in books/papers, friends talking about it etc. I can't do it.

My daughter's birth in 2020 was all kinds of traumatic and I avoid the topic at all costs.

After being threatened, stalked, followed and sexually assaulted by men I've rejected in person, I'm totally okay with being mean if it lets me avoid all that.

I have definitely told guys at the end of a date that I "want to see them again" while having no intention of seeing them again. It's a safety thing. IME guys can Jekyll and Hyde pretty hard when being rejected.

I know it can hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, my safety > your feelings

That looks great! Did you make the pattern yourself?

I was in the popularclub sub, the only interesting thing about it was when newbies posted their story about how they got there - there was sometimes backstory/ follow ups/ chat about what happens when you "go viral"

Otherwise it was mostly cat pics and random boast posts