Sass @beehaw.org I strive to accept the world as it is. I refuse to accept that this is how it must remain.
Hey, thank you for sharing. You pulled it back together, good. I’m also bipolar and a few other goodies.
Lithium poisoning so sucks. The shaking and the queazy and the disorder thing is subtly different that is is really hard to catch. My psychiatrist at the time didn’t catch it, and well that was a fun suicidal ideation episode.
I’ve gone down several times in my life. Each time I get better at getting better. It’s not the falling, it’s the getting back-up. It’s about losing less ground each time. It’s about being ruthlessly honest about what the triggers are. It’s about not relying on hypomanias to get stuff done. It’s about letting go of the outcome.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, drink your water, do your mindfulness & exercises, take you meds & do your therapy. But if one more person tells me to breath, we will be having words, short, sharp and explicit words.
Maybe some day I’ll share my story. Right now I’m stable with therapy and meds. The business is going well. And the sigle biggest improvement is my DH taking his own mental health seriously. Therapy and meds for everyone!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Your back and may any future moments be mild and short. Hugz
I’m 57. I can fake adulting pretty well. Inside the three yo runs this show.
The Art of being a Perfectly Fine Human Being.
Neurodivergent folk are told in thousands of ways, small and large, that we are both too much and not enough at the same time. It is crazy making.
These are opinions and not very good ones.
The vast majority of the things that we are criticized for are not actually requirements. We are mostly criticized for things that are the optional extras that makes the critical person feel comfortable. If it is not their job to make you comfortable, then it is not your job to make them comfortable.
All that we have to do in life is to be Perfectly Fine Human Beings.
A Perfectly Fine Human Being:
~ Keeps themselves and their environment clean enough not to negatively impact someone else’s health.
~ Obeys the civil law. Read it for yourself.
~ Does not purposely aggravate others. That is just self-preservation.
~ Does their share and only their share. Get that spelled out in the beginning and preferably in writing.
~ Honors any contract freely entered into. If it isn’t in the contract you are not responsible. Read the contract.
~ Keeps themselves to themselves. Peopling is optional, but if you choose to people you have implicitly agreed to play by their rules.
~ Quietly walks away from people and situations that they find unhelpful or unhealthy.
This is all it Takes to be a Perfectly Fine Human Being just as you are. Every thing beyond this is extra and completely optional.
I’ve been at this neurodivergent thing for 51 years (diagnosed as dyslexic in 1972 and autistic in 2021) and have cultivated a wonderful group of fellow neurodivergent folks. The one thing that makes the single biggest improvement in our lives is learning to love our quirks. Fly, be free to be your quirky, adorkable selves. Being adorkable is adorable.
I like that neurodivergence is a great big broad category. Each individual type represents a very small population that is easy to ignore and scapegoat. Adding up the huge variety of neurodiversity, genetic and acquired, gives us enough numbers to get something done.
I am dyslexic, autistic and bipolar. Not one of these groups have enough numbers on there own to effect change. The same accommodations that I need to function with one issue are the same accommodations I need to deal with them all, adequate education, adequate health care, adequate tools & technology, adequate shelter, adequate nutrition, and an adequately civil society. Just like every other human on the planet.
We need to speak with one voice. How neurodivergence is dealt with is inadequate for all of us.
Lol, anything less that 3 cups of coffee and a full nights sleep and naught becomes knot when I really mean not. Sigh
I was assigned Zen in college. I could not get into it. And I had to get it read. I took it chapter by chapter backwards and loved it.
His Johny series is my cozy go to. But, Trucker, Diggers and Wings is sitting in front of a fire, under a fluffy blanket and sipping hot chocolate with a hint of cinnamon and a touch of cayenne.
Teflon Don may not suffer all of the consequences. He is suffering some. Much more importantly, is that enough of the enablers, supporters and followers are suffering their own consequences. He could not, and did not, do anything alone. The DoJ Trump may never get Trump. However, the process is grinding a whole lot of the enablers down.
Smith made the interesting choice to go through Miami rather than DC. One of the guesses is that filing in such a pro Trump jurisdiction will eliminate many of the stalling tactics and under cut claims of bias. So far Smith seems to be closing the loop holes.
Oh fun, thank you 🙏
This sounds a lot like me. I was diagnosed as dyslexic in 1973. I I just attributed it all to being LD in general. I did not know that these specific issues now have there own category. Slow progress, but still progress.
Does it include a complete and utter inability to tell left from right? Because the Significant Other is forever asking in gently, exasperated, loving tones: Do you mean the other left?
Floating in the kayak on flat, clear water, under the trees, gazing at the little fish and salamanders darting through the reeds and lilies, sigh. Dragonflies make me giggle. Fast is fun too.
Swallowing flys at 30mph, snicker, sniker, snicker
So that’s what those are. Thanks
Beautiful. I’m in the Willamette. I will keep an eye out. By chance do you have a recommended link to find out more?
Oh yes please. Cheering people on, giving them a new lens in which to view themselves, or just a moment of attention all for themselves, brings me joy. Good suggestion. What would it take to make it?
Oh yes please. Cheering people on, giving them a new lens in which to view themselves, or just a moment of attention all for themselves, brings me joy. Good suggestion. Cheers
I hear you and get where you are coming from. The language is inadequate.
My neurodivergence is both genetic and environmental. Dyslexia runs in my family. However, those of us that also suffered from Childhood Emotional Neglect developed ADHD. And those of us that were additionally scapegoated are diagnosably on the spectrum. The pattern runs through 4 generations in 26 nuclear families.
No amount of punishment or socialization can eradicate the dyslexia. The medication is for dealing with the effects of a lifetime of being punished for something beyond my control.