Oh, so more like you are asking how actualized are your kinks? I think that is a good question. I spent a stupid long time waiting for my sexuality to evolve and turn into what I considered the 'real' adult woman sexuality, which involved getting off on taking charge. Like, even though my very earliest sexual fantasies were about being forced (not even sexually, necessarily) and never about anything except that power play stuff, I really truly thought I ought not want it, that it was some sort of unfinished or lazy thing. One day had a revelation that if any of my friends had some kink I'd be so accepting of them, never ever would I think they needed to change, so tried to give myself the same consideration, and am much more in alignment now. So in the scale of acceptance, maybe 8 or so. But I do not agree that everyone 'vanilla' is repressing hidden depths of perversity. I think many, probably most people really aren't. Even those with a healthy sex drive. And no way does everyone have the same levels of general need, it took me 40 years to find a guy who runs as hot as me, get it every day now for about 15 years :)

So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don't care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it's more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?

The 1-5 I'd put as:

1 is asexual, do not even feel desire at all.

2 the demisexual who can kinda enjoy it if you do but really are just doing it for someone else they wouldn't bother for themselves.

3 the people who have to be in love to feel sexual desire, they can be 'unlocked', basically, it's just part of love to them. May actually do more variety of stuff but only for someone else, really do not feel independent sexual desire but love and sex entwined.

4 I think of as the normal people who can enjoy sex as an activity, outside of a relationship just for physical pleasure but it doesn't pull at them so hard, and they don't want unusual stuff just sex. Probably don't seek out sex specifically, but dates,

5 the normal people who are more adventurous, and who get frustrated sooner, have a more active sex drive and will seek out sex partners, will go outside their comfort zone if a partner suggests it. Sexually active normal people I don't think of as kinky.

I just think probably a very large chunk of people just don't prioritize sex or need anything very specific.

6. I've done and enjoyed stuff I think most people haven't, and a slap is still faster than a kiss and none of my fantasies are about plain sex, but I enjoy plain sex every day, and counting down I think that:

10 is people who want something that will kill them or someone else.

9 is people who want something that would land them in jail, or literal fetishists who get off on something that doesn't include what most of us think of as sex, and only that.

8 is people who need something other than plain sex or can enjoy things that most of us find too gross

7 is people who identify mostly as their kink but can enjoy sex without it

Which would leave me at 6. I think way more people are in the 1-5 group than the 6-10 group, it's not an even distribution. If you are asking where I'd land in the general population of women, that would probably be a different answer.

This is great. The beginning reminds me of the song Crazy on You where she says "but I tell myself that I was doing alright, there's nothing left to do tonight" the finally letting go.

Best part of any sort of swinging is the 1 on 1 with your own love afterwards. I think that's something who never tried don't understand. It concentrates your pleasure together way more than it dilutes it.

Imagination, most of the time. Written D/s M/f erotica, or occasionally MF/f, written from either perspective, the rest of the time. I enjoy a lot of the pictures on here but not in a way that inspires masturbation. Just enjoy smut in general, interesting and keeps a slow burn, right?

Never really seek out porn videos.

I haven't been on there in years, it was about half people shilling paid accounts (cam girls) back then but I had some good come from it. Mostly good, actually. Every online space seems to devolve over time.

I do think the other focused sex is possible (I get this with my husband because I don't have to worry, it is balanced, I get back what I give) but likely not as much fun to watch - for me personally the power play stuff M/f does get me the quickest response, doesn't even have to be explicitly sexual. Just the mismatch in physical attractiveness between the men and women is jarring enough to undo that response. Gay male porn has good looking guys and plenty of rough stuff but I don't watch enough of any of it to know any names.

That Venus, while she is not my niche, I do think plenty of guys (at least those I know) do still focus so much on T&A that they often don't care much what is between them somehow, or actively prefer plush built women.

Well the guys in straight porn are nearly uniformly unappealing from my childhood through my middle age and still are for some reason I cannot explain (Manuel Ferrara a notable exception, and Lemmy's Nodachi). A thousand years from now? Nobody current, styles change. Oldest that I think someone might still like? Venus of Willendorf.

Don't let her see that "probably", lol! And yeah, you picked right.

I'm straight but just want to say all of these ladies look gorgeous, fit, and natural. What a refreshing change from the parade of implants.

That is honestly a great shot!

Looking filtered but you can still tell how stunning you both are! And OMG so hot together.

My husband loved to watch me with other guys, but wasn't into humiliation (except from the other side, he did bull for some couples).

I think it's the humiliation that makes it cuckolding kink, not whether it's same sex/opposite sex. So yeah if you like them making fun of you for getting each other off better than you could, it's cuckolding.

Without the humiliation, just voyeurism I would say. Same as if she liked seeing you get railed by some guy and enjoying it, but not feeling anything except happy about it.

Yeah I would need to know if a guy is submissive because that wouldn't work for me, wouldn't judge you for it at all just not good match. Just spent too many years fighting my own nature, I am not doing that for any guy anymore. So I think it's good to get out of the way, the girls who are into it will love it, probably be a relief to them.

You know, I think if you can dream it, someone somewhere is already getting off on it.

What is going on with the hand on the counter?

Congratulations, and welcome to womanhood! On the boobs, and the "yet", we don't all get 'em. I am a woman who has always lived in a female body and at no point in my life could I fill a boob- focused shirt, not even while nursing. It's not a requirement, you can look very feminine with tiny tits, and very sexy, just gotta choose the right outfits.

This is so close to being a limerick

There once was a dude in the bed

Who begged and begged and begged

For his girlfriend to shit him...

I think most people's sexuality does evolve over time, and kinky or open-minded people might go through phases of really being into something.

But a fetish, like something that develops early and the person needs it? I'm not sure. That seems like asking if I could stop needing to be heterosexual, more than asking if I could give up wanting to be dominated.