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Ballistic_86 @lemmy.world
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Why does moral progress feel preachy and annoying?
  • Progressive ideas have always been deemed preachy and annoying. Conservative ideas have always been deemed preachy and annoying. Having to hear a different ideological opinion is going to perceived that way.

    The internet has just made this attitude more visible. The internet keeps people in their own personal bubble of content and people that share views. But it also gives access for any opposing views be public, widespread, and benefits from positive or negative interaction equally. Where the most vocal and controversial make it to the front page of everyone’s feeds.

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    Female-to-male rape, (how) does it happen without roofies?
  • It would def have to be a discussion, but that would by default be sexual assault

    Bodily autonomy and safety around boundaries are paramount over “finishing”

    No means no, and yes means yes until a no

  • Growing rural-urban divide exists only among white Americans | Cornell Chronicle
  • I have thought about this as just some fucking Lemmy commenter.

    Rural white Americans used to benefit from conservative systems. Maybe not the current people, but their parents or grandparents. And while conservative leadership destroys their lives, campaign promises are often made to farmers/miners/other heavy industry. Any failures (the system working as intended) are blamed on “the other side” This upholds the divide between rural and urban whites as intended.

    With black and brown people becoming more prominent in rural communities as members instead of just laborer, those previously felt conservative views don’t hold up. They aren’t benefiting, their parents didn’t, their grandparents definitely didn’t. On top of the racial divide that conservatives operate under, rural whites and rural POCs are likely to not share the same political values despite being a like in lifestyle.

    But what do I know, just some guy from the suburbs death scrolling Lemmy

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    Female-to-male rape, (how) does it happen without roofies?
  • A lot of aggression in this comments with this is literally no stupid questions.

    Sexual assault comes in many forms and men are and can be victims of most of them. Coercion, violence, emotional manipulation, drugs or alcohol, the list is the same regardless of gender.

    As for an erection, it’s a biological response so they don’t correspond to desire/attraction/consent. Many women who are raped get “wet” and even orgasm, but that does not indicate pleasure or consent. It’s actually one of the reasons rape victims feel very guilty about the event. “If I didn’t want it/hated it/was scared, why did I cum?” That reasoning is also part of why people don’t report rape. They think that having an orgasm will hurt their chances to press charges or win because “they enjoyed it”

    Rape can also happen between consenting people as well. In fact, quite a lot of what is and should be considered sexual assault/rape, is a partner “going too far” or doing something their consenting partner didn’t consent to.

    Healthy sexual intimacy requires clear communication, setting boundaries, and making sure those things aren’t broken. The kink/BDSM community is an extreme form of sexual pleasure, and despite literal violence and pain, there is always consent at the forefront and there is always an “opt-out” or safe word that ends the encounter with no second guessing.

  • Texas woman arrested for allegedly attempting to drown 3-year-old Palestinian Muslim child in possible hate crime
  • This is true. Hopefully it doesn’t negatively affect the case against this person. Specifying it as a hate crime means that will need to be proved in the court. Or maybe I’m not understanding the law as well as LegalEagle makes me think.

  • I am scared to flirt with girls.
  • You should just tell them you are not good at flirting and be more direct. It has worked very well for me. You can also work on getting a bit better by just doing so under the context that you are bad and it can be something funny between you and your match/potential partner.

  • I cannot stand how social interactions are valorized in media and advertising to make us feel wrong for being alone.
  • You feeling shitty or weird doing stuff alone is a you problem. Literally nobody else cares or is even thinking about you at all. Everyone in the restaurant is there to do their own thing, eat food, meet friends or family, or work. Nobody is thinking “look at that weird person sitting alone” because they just don’t even notice.

    Mentioning that you can bring a friend with you after buying season tickets is letting you know of a good benefit you might not have known. It wasn’t a secret attack on you or someone doing things by themselves.

    Relax. There is no “introvert” persecution. Go do your thing, literally nobody cares you are doing them by yourself.

  • The US healthcare system is broken...
  • I 100% get my prescriptions without insurance and just use the local pharmacy discount rate they offer. My insurance is employer provided aimed at people who make a lot more money than the employer actually pays. Such is US healthcare

  • guess I'll die
  • This is true for the US as well. It’s why legal immigration into the US isn’t as easy as people would try to pretend. Other than a student visa, you are required to have a sponsor. Whether that be a family member or significant other that can support you, or a place of business that is going to be paying you a salary so a person can support themselves.

    There are also limitations based on country of origin. Some countries don’t have that much “competition” when it comes to people applying for citizenship, so they can get through the process quickly. Other countries have huge populations of people attempting to immigrate, causing year of delays on processing paperwork. That is why “illegal” immigration is so common in the US. The process is bogged down in bureaucracy and paperwork, all of which generally require time/money/legal representation. Something a majority of US citizens could not afford if they had to do so to stay in the country.