Personally, I think I get more intense pleasure from nipple play and anal, but touching my dick distracts me from it and makes me only think about cumming. It's much more fun when I don't use it at all!
Yeah - I love being dominant and aggressively fucking a guy, but if I'm fully switching gears and being submissive , I want to lose control and give into the other person , and definitely don't want to cum , so touch everywhere but my dick