A simple question to this community, what are you self-hosting? It's probably fun to hear from each-other what services we are running.
Please mention at least the service (e.g. e-mail) and the software (e.g. postfix). Extra bonus points for also mentioning the OS and/or hardware (e.g. Linux Distribution, raspberry pi, etc) you are running on.
All my deploys are written in binary on a stack of index cards that we then burn, put in a zip lock bag, encase in concrete, surround in a welded closed steel box, and throw in the Mariana Trench. The documentation sucks though.
I'm not sure the list is really that big of a deal for a home gamer. They're probably more in danger from their choice of home audio appliances and that microwave that has been sitting on their network for 10 years which no longer gets updates. Or that 2019 Plex server they have put forwarded straight outside.
It's actually one of my beefs with containers, You can't keep track of The versions for everything and you're at the mercy of the maintainers to keep individual packages updated.
I'll have to disagree with you there. SSH is super well maintained and understood, and massively useful for the risk you do run. Who knows what's going on with all the random projects people are hosting. I'd rather have SSH exposed than almost anything else.
What would you do to provide access to some less tech savvy friends. I'm thinking of dropping a SBC with wireguard and a proxy onto a friend's network, that way everything is under my control, and I can lock down the wireguard connection however I want, but I haven't gone down that route yet.