There is no question that you have, and probably will again, but making yourself aware of what it looks like and being willing to speak up or step in is the only way to counter that (and is intimately more effective than trying to cling to "not all men" like so many others).
Yeah. It took me a while (too long, tbh) to realize that not being an active part of the problem wasn’t enough. I need to watch for it, and call people out.
Hell, everyone does. We know better. There’s just no excuse for letting it continue.
It's not an illusion. The men that perform this harassment generally know they're wrong and therefore keep it secret.
I don't know anyone who's sexually assaulted/harassed a woman because I'm very open about how that's not fucking okay. If I find out someone has it'll either lead to violence or cutting them out of my life completely
Every man goes to secret fratbro social club meetings. It's on the third Tuesday rotating bi annually every year. We do it at 4am so you don't notice we're gone. It's where we all tell each other our secret darkest sexual assault/rape confessions so everyone can know who we need to cover for.