Courage setting up an appointment
Courage setting up an appointment
Curious if y'all have any tips in getting enough courage to make a phone call to set up an appointment for hrt? I got my anxiety resolved for the mostpart recently but I'm still trying to find that last bit to actually manage to make the call
Assuming you’re trying to call a place/person who offers HRT regularly, try to remember that the person who answers your call has received this same call many times before and wants to help you get what you need. And it’s okay for you to ask for what you need. You deserve to get what you need.
Alternatively, remember that the longer you delay, the longer you still have way too much testosterone flowing through you. 😉
It’s scary to take these big steps, but you’re traveling a well-worn path walked by we who came before you. 💜
P.S. When I transitioned, I had this mantra which I found immensely helpful: “There is not one damn person on the face of this earth I ever have to see again if I truly decide I don’t want to.”
“Truly” is a heavy decision to make, but there’s always some way to push them forever out of your life and keep going. Often very difficult, but the option is there. 💜🏳️⚧️
Something that helps me is to change the way I perceive myself in these moments of anxiety. I separate my pre-transition self from my post-transition self and think of them as distinctly different people. Any embarrassing or uncomfortable situations are just experiences of my pre-transition self that doesn't define my post-transition self. It's like a temporary feeling of just letting go and not caring about the consequences, because it's a totally different person dealing with it for me.
You could also remind yourself that in the grand scheme of the universe, this moment is an insignificant speck of time.
There are two things that helped me to get over the hurdle. The first is something that applies for anything I’m scared of but I logically know is safe. I know that if I do it and don’t like it or it’s really awkward, I still won’t regret doing it. But if I don’t do it, I know I’ll regret it afterwards.
The second is to set up to make the phone call and seriously consider it, even if you don’t end up calling that day. It will’s be easier the next time. Especially since there’s a chance you get an answering machine or hold music and need to call again later.
What sometimes helped me with these things is to visualize doing them first -- to kind of run through what's going to happen in your head. You could even kind of write out a short script of what you're going to say, and practice it in your head!
Also, don't stress it too much if you back out a few times. I think I even got as far as starting to dial the number once before getting too anxious and abandoning it once. Because it's something you want to do, you just have to keep trying and eventually you'll be ok! :)
What everyone said here is super great and I don't know if this will be helpful but it's what motivated me:
Anytime I saw a thread or someone talk about their biggest regret about their transition, the most common one I found was not starting HRT as soon as possible. I didn't want to share that regret as I was already very late figuring out my gender identity and I'm glad I didn't wait longer.