Same! I was diagnosed as a kid in the mid 90s. Took meds back then that didn’t work for me, and went unmedicated for about 30 something years. I at least have a grasp on some of the “why” behind my thought processes and behaviors, but none of it makes me feel any better.
Rather that saying that as an opinion say that as if it was an objective truth because it is one. It is truly a terrible name for the disorder because it's named after how we inconvenience neurotypicals and not after our struggles. It should either describe our struggles properly or have a serious sounding neutral name where people won't be assuming things about the disorder.
i mean at least the attention deficit part is accurate, i have to make sure to place objects where i can't avoid looking at them because otherwise i will completely and utterly forget the moment something else takes my attention.
I tend to refill my water bottle at the same time as going to the toilet, so if i just place the bottle on the kitchen counter i WILL without fail forget all about its existence, the only solution to this is placing the bottle in front of my door so i almost walk into it before remembering that it exists.
Other parts of ADHD have their upsides, but god damn this facet of it drives me up the wall and i can't see how it would ever be useful.