Meta: For the sake of mutual aid with Blajah and my sanity, no more posts about Blajah's moderation policies please.
I'm gonna get real with you folks, we've had way too many of these posts recently. I've been reflecting on this topic a lot the past few days. For me personally, I couldn't care less about my gender identity. But just because that's true for me, doesn't make that true for everyone.
The beauty of the fediverse is that if you don't like the way a particular instance or community is moderated you can simply choose another to hang out on, or create your own.
Blajah has made it pretty clear by now they will ban anyone who argues against the validity of xenogenders, in order to create a safe space for those folks. That's fair enough imo.
Safe spaces should be respected, and Blajah's admins/mods do not deserve abuse for creating and maintaining those spaces.
I can completely understand why Blajah users don't want to have to constantly argue with external users about the validity of their chosen identities. Bans are one way Blajah has decided to manage that problem so that their users can experience lemmy in relative peace and safety. While it is a blunt tool and I have my reservations about preemptive bans, there are not many other options for @[email protected], other than defederation from most instances. That would be a terrible outcome for the fediverse as a whole.
In order to help Blajah to maintain their safe space, I would like to propose, if @[email protected] agrees and community sentiment is positive:
that we no longer accept posts about this topic in this community; and
we also remove previous posts on this topic from the community.
Frankly, most of what I see on this comm is BPR and YDI, and most people could probably benefit from taking their bans and touching grass. But having some posts be YDI makes the PTB's more exciting so maybe i'm wrong.
Maybe we should make some penalty for earning a YDI or BPR, so that people who receive them aren't encouraged to re-hash the same conflicts over and over? I'm honestly not sure. Part of the problem is that the same people cross-post the same conflict on similar comms, which makes it feel as if the same issue is being litigated repeatedly.
But complaining about receiving a ban from a protective community with strict conduct policies is certainly not the intent of this community, i don't think.
But complaining about receiving a ban from a protective community with strict conduct policies is certainly not the intent of this community, i don’t think.
Is that all it takes to be immune from PTB status? Being a 'protective' community, but only towards the 'right' people who think in the 'right' way?
Maybe it is? Don't non-binary people have a right to moderate their own space as they like?
If they have a rule against gatekeeping gender identities and pronouns in their own instance, don't they have a right to remove offenders from their servers?
You're all over this topic today, maybe just take a second and listen to what the community is saying. You've more than said your piece.
Don't non-binary people have a right to moderate their own space as they like?
Sure, though it seems as if their right extends to not being satirized in other communities for being power-tripping bastards. Don't they have a right to not be criticized for stifling any discussion and banning people based on vibes and posting history, using thought-terminating cliches in place of arguments? Well, it seems they do.
Maybe it is? Don’t non-binary people have a right to moderate their own space as they like?
Is there a group out there that doesn't have the right to moderate their own space 'as they like'?
If they have a rule against gatekeeping gender identities and pronouns in their own instance, don’t they have a right to remove offenders from their servers?
"They have the right" and "It is always the correct call" are two entirely different concepts.
You’re all over this topic today, maybe just take a second and listen to what the community is saying. You’ve more than said your piece.
Yeah, well maybe I'm fucking pissed that I just watched a user get harassed out of the Fediverse because Blahaj wants to play harassment games on other people's instances, and that I'm the one who had to fucking bring it up to be discussed. Maybe I don't like the idea that if I stayed quiet this all would've been swept under the rug.
I haven't a clue what event you're referring to even though I feel as though I've encountered nothing but your comments today. If your goal is to discuss a specific abuse then you've done a piss poor job of it.
I'd recommend reaching out to @[email protected] if you think there's been that severe of an abuse that's happened, and the community mod hasn't addressed it well enough.
Honestly, though, it just seems like you have an axe to grind and you're taking it out on everyone else. Either settle it with the admins or cool off a bit, you're souring the space for everyone by flaming out like this.
I haven’t a clue what event you’re referring to even though I feel as though I’ve encountered nothing but your comments today.
I've summarized the events in this thread alone at least twice.
My opinions on xenogender aside, the fact that Blahaj defenders, in this very comm, harassed a trans user into leaving the Fediverse has me fuming, and rightfully so in my opinion. And they play it off as “[The harassed user] deserved it.” even now. That is pretty core to the anger I feel right now.
Uh, considering recent events, where Blahaj defenders dogpiled a trans person on another instance for disagreeing with them, you sure about that
Most of my comments have been refutations to specific arguments put forth in the context of those events.
it looks like you're geting angry about something third hand that another person reported as happening to them that even they're not 100% on the causative factors but strongly suspect.
There was a second ban that happened in that thread which I noted in a comment. And then, after the events of the thread, the user decided to leave the Fediverse entirely after, as a trans person, being repeatedly and insistently called a transphobe and fascist while other users backed the sentiment.
Whatever bro. You're not gonna bring them back. It hasn't been swept under the rug. And they are hardly the first person to leave the fediverse.
Just gotta move on at this point, you can't control other servers. They are going to do what they do, and you obviously disagree, as is your right, but at some point you need to accept it and look to the future. You're not accomplishing anything by continually bitching about what happened in the past.
For the record, I don't think you're a transphobe or anything of the sort. I understand your frustration and agitation, but there's really nothing more to say at this point, just let it go.
You're not upset that a trans user got banned, you're upset you got yourself banned and are pointing to a trans user as a shield against anti-trans accusations