I'm more than willing to give the developers and contributors a lot of leeway given that I'm convinced that Lemmy (and Kbin for that matter) is woefully unprepared to deal with the flood of users from Reddit and everything that it entails, such as more activity overwhelming not just servers, but also the infrastructure itself.

I'm also severely small-brained to understand a lot of the technical discussion in the thread you've linked, but one of the links in that thread lead me to this interesting discussion.

While that kind of drama isn't really productive (I'd rather that the devs, contributors, instance admins and anyone else in the larger discussion about Lemmy and its infrastructure happening all around us), it's entertaining to watch but on the other hand, sadly reinforces the stereotypes about "nerds not having social skills".