Just because you don't get it doesn't mean I don't make sense.
No seriously dude. Go talk to some older gay people, particularly men. Try to make some minimal effort to understand why communities who have been beaten to shit by society want to own their language. It's gotta be something to have never been in that position.
I understand you. Here's what you don't understand: queer people are not a monolith. You do not represent all queer people, so stop acting like you do.