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Who knows. I let her get away despite us being pretty close friends. I think about her, I regret ditching her, but then I remember that not ditching her would mean I'd have to explain why I changed my name and I'd rather suck off a polar bear. Cis name changes are worse than genocide.
As a guy who just changed his name: this last sentence just is unnecessary.
Either you cut all the ties you've ever had or everyone you know isn't so vehemently transphobic that a CIS person who changed their name is more offensive than committing a hundred 9/11s in every country, AND the trans people you know don't assume you just want to be oppressed and changed your name for attention. Changing my name meant cutting all ties.
dude, calm down. maybe it's you? I changed my name while staying in the same job. 400 people had to learn my new name. i work in a school, so i told all the kids and the teachers. i go to a dance party every week, i've known the people there for years. one day i was like "hey this is my name now". i didn't cut ties with a single person and nobody has ever attacked me. maybe you're just a terrible person?
Changing from a "black name" to a common American name is controversial. You're supposed to be proud of the African equivalent to Renesmeeigh. Everyone thinks it's "pretty" and "righteous" and "meaningful" and I just have self hatred. I actually grew to love myself after getting rid of that ugly crap.
You're right, I am terrible for not wanting a slavery tradition as my name. I refuse to live as a victim of suffering I've never endured. I was not a slave or a child of a slave. I'm American as fuck, give me an American name.
I never said that. You know that your comment is in bad faith. If you don't tell people your old name then they cannot have any comments about it
Having a slavery tradition name feels like stolen valor anyway like that wasn't my story to tell why am I named like it is. I might as well larp as a Palestinian who survived a bombing, for attention. It's horrible. Yet it's forced on me.
The community that is assigned to me is incredibly bigoted. Anti LGBT, antisemitic, Islamophobic, racist, xenophobic, ableist, you name it, it's turned up to 11 in there.
On the outside we're made to look so welcoming to our "brothers and sisters" but in reality it's a war zone.
THEY treat cis name changes like it's worse than genocide, and once again I've normalized something no one else experiences. God I wish I was white
"if you can pronounce Tchaikovsky, Michaelangelo, and Volodymyr Zelenskyy, then you can pronounce Preightynleigh-McKhanzlynn"
but then I remember that not ditching her would mean I'd have to explain why I changed my name and I'd rather suck off a polar bear. Cis name changes are worse than genocide.
"Why did you change your name?"
"Personal reasons I'd rather not discuss, but just know that this name makes me happy"
Proceeds to engage in genocideWhat world do you live in where it's that easy? If I'm not married or transgender then I might as well have dropped those bombs in Japan. I had friends who genuinely liked me but would not have respected my name change. Even simply having a preferred name in high school was horrible, they'd rather struggle with with stupid tragedeigh grossness that family's mother stuck on me.
You really don’t have to explain anything. “This suits me better” is a perfectly valid reason to change a name, if you do feel like you have to give a reason
Asking a cop how to take the safety off a gun so I can commit a mass shooting is easier and will result in a better outcome
Bit melodramatic, no?
You can only have either a cis name change or all the people in your life, not both.
I haven’t lost anyone, maybe you’re just assuming.