Relationship Anarchy
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Relationship Communism: An Infantile Disorder
> An antimoralist critique of The Relationship Anarchy Discussions (RAD) Content Library
- crimethinc.com Notes on Love
On a day often filled with consumerism and shallow romanticism, this manifesto from a comrade in New York City explores love as a foundation for militancy.
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Marriage: An Invasive Political Regime
> Marriage is not just an individual choice. In fact, it violates the principle of individual consent. A person may consent to get married in the first place, but once they are married, they cannot just change their mind, revoke their consent, and have the marriage end when they are no longer willing to be married. They have to get permission from the state to legally get a divorce. It is not based on the will of the participants alone, and they do not get to set all of the terms of their divorce, just like they didn’t get to set the legal terms of their marriage.
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A Field Guide to Love & Fear Circles
Love circles and fear circles are social games
…in which we get together in small groups and share our observations and feelings about our relationships.
These games help us:
- Explore intimacy and communication in new ways.
- Destigmatize intimacy, affection, conflict, and fear.
- Learn about our friends, how they relate to each other, and ourselves.
- Practice recognizing and expressing our own feelings and thoughts.
- Practice talking in groups about things that are mostly discussed in one-on-one settings.
- Pay attention to and celebrate many different ways of relating to each other, including those that may be overlooked or downplayed because they are not typical family, romantic, or “friendly” relationships.
- Feel more deeply connected to each other.
- Build solidarity that will help us support each other more fully.
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Infinite Relationships - Relationships without bounds or boundaries, love without limits, without ends
theanarchistlibrary.org Infinite RelationshipsCrimethInc. Infinite Relationships Relationships without bounds or boundaries, love without limits, without ends March 30, 2001
> The world is infinite, and so are we—no amount of living, no number or depth of interactions with others should be “enough” for any of us, just as no amount of interactions with a person you love will ever be “enough.” (To set borders on what another person can do or feel, as a condition for them to be able to receive my love and affection, goes against everything I believe as an anarchist and a human being; I want to trust others to know what they need, and never limit them—and I certainly don’t think my life will be any richer from the limitations I place on others). We have to free each other to be and become ourselves. This isn’t just about other lovers or sex partners or friends, it’s also about other undertakings, needs, even the desire for space and solitude—it’s heartbreaking how much of our selves our lovers often ask us to sacrifice to be with them.
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Love, Anarchy, and Drama - The Classical Anarchists’ Adventures and Misadventures in Polyamory
theanarchistlibrary.org Love, Anarchy, and DramaCrimethInc. Love, Anarchy, and Drama The Classical Anarchists’ Adventures and Misadventures in Polyamory 14th February 2019
> Like many contemporary anarchists, many anarchists of the 19th and 20th centuries maintained relationships with multiple romantic partners, or were involved with partners who did. Just as it does today, this often precipitated gossip, heartache, jealousy, and interminable emotional processing. A complete history of anarchist polyamory drama would be nearly as ambitious as a comprehensive history of the anarchist movement itself. Here, we’ve limited ourselves to a few poignant anecdotes from the lives of a handful of classical anarchists.
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Adultery (and other half revolutions)
de.crimethinc.com Adultery (and other half revolutions)A spectre is haunting the Western world:the spectre of Adultery. If the two-party relationship system is the pinnacle achievement of a hundred thousand years of human loving, why is adultery so co...
>A spectre is haunting the Western world: the spectre of Adultery.
Personal opinion: I dont really agree with most parts of the text. The comparisons to other forms of oppression does not sit right with me and I also feel like the text really does not engage with the issue of consent at all. Still wanted to post it, maybe you have other perspectives.
- theanarchistlibrary.org Kill the Couple in Your Head
Anonymous Kill the Couple in Your Head May 2021 Published by Ungrateful Hyenas Editions. What follows are the notes of a talk given in Berlin, Athens, and...
> The Couple splits us off from ourselves and the living web of relations, restricting care, material and emotional support, affection, and intimacy to this codependent unit. What we are calling ‘The Couple’ is only mutual control, management, and governance.
Also you can print this as a zine or listen to an audio book version, check out Ungrateful Hyenas Editions
- www.vice.com 10 Questions You Always Wanted to Ask a Relationship Anarchist
"Relationship anarchists refuse to give certain people in their lives power over them just because their relationship is romantic or sexual."
> KC Clements, 29, is a relationship anarchist. Right on time for Valentine's Day, I picked his brain about what it all means and how the concept differs from other, better known forms of non-monogamy.
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Relationship Anarchy in (500) Days of Summer
yt.artemislena.eu Relationship Anarchy in (500) Days of SummerMainely Mandy has returned and she's talking about relationship anarchy! What is it exactly and could Summer from everyone's fave indie romcom be one? Is this form of nonmonogamy just about chaos or is there something more going on? Watch to find out! Typos: I apparently don't know how to spell "es...
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A Relationship Anarchist Perspective on QPRs(queerplatonic relationships) and Friendship
nothingradical.blog A Relationship Anarchist Perspective on QPRs and FriendshipWhere I talk about QPRs, relationship anarchy, how I personally find QPRs less useful of a concept than I used to.
> Early on in my journey to understand my aspec identity, I came across the concept of queerplatonic relationships. As a baby aro, I found the concept of a relationship that is committed and intimate while also being wholly platonic incredibly liberating. Because of social programming, the thought that I could have intimacy and affection in a relationship without romance and sex had never occurred to me. I immediately knew that a QPR is something I wanted, and this started the long process of unlearning many of the social scripts I grew up with. As this process of deprogramming progressed and I opened my mind to what an interpersonal relationship is and what it can be, I eventually settled on relationship anarchy as the primary conceptualization scheme through which I understand the relationships in my life. However, as I began navigating relationships through the lens of relationship anarchy, the concept of a queerplatonic relationship started to become less and less intuitive to me, and I began to realize that the concept doesn’t necessarily map well to my conceptual model of relationships.
- www.thecut.com What It’s Like Being a Relationship Anarchist
According to two people who practice it — with each other, and others, too.
> Like many minority populations, relationship anarchists are no strangers to in-group fighting, and what does and does not “count” as relationship anarchy is a subject of spirited social-media debate among the thousands of members of RA Facebook groups — Nordgren’s term (and its subsequent adherents) appears to be little more than a decade old. To learn more about what relationship anarchy is like, the Cut spoke to two people who define their partnership (and their other partnerships) by these terms. Kelli is a 34-year-old trans nonbinary person who uses they/them pronouns, and Aviva is a 35-year-old queer, genderqueer lesbian who uses she/her pronouns.
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What Is Relationship Anarchy?
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This introductory video focuses more on the anarchism in relationship anarchy and on the application of anarchist ideals on relationships
- thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com Relationship Anarchy Basics
What is relationship anarchy? Relationship anarchy is a lifestyle, a way of doing personal relationships. Relationship anarchy is a philosophy, specifically a philosophy of love. A relationship ana…
Insightful text on relationship anarchy with a focus on an asexual and/or aromantic perspective
>What relationship anarchy hinges on the most, for me, is the equality it seeks to create across the relationship board, so that sexual relationships are not superior to nonsexual relationships and “romantic” relationships are not superior to nonromantic friendships, and that equality means that a nonsexual and/or nonromantic friend has the same amount of access to love, intimacy, physical affection, support, etc.
- theanarchistlibrary.org The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy
Andie Nordgren The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy 2006