Well i am non binary but we best fit the lesbian lable. doesnt matter at all, i just wanna do my part to prevent lemmy to become heteronormative. we already had that on reddit to an annoying amount ^^
But thats what i assume her thoughts were based of the speechless reaction xD
what do you mean "miss"? i think everyone decent is on your side that the trans discrimination needs to stop. but this not happening at this point doesnt make this news bad. As a queer activist for many decades i can tell you that queer rights sadly come in baby steps. And that we need to fight together and celebrate every advancement.
my now wife is american. i learned uk english. one day we and some friends sat in a team speak voice chat. my now wife asks where XY is. i tell them, that they left to smoke a fag (which is uk söang for smokeing a cigerette). She was very concerned to say the least.
not really. he withdrew because if he gets the positon a moral report on his person would become public. he saw the report and withdrew. wow i wonder what it says
he is scared of a moral report that would go public if he is part of the kabinet. so no he wont get any other positon, if he wants to try to lie the pedophelia away.
yeah i completly agree. perhabs i phrased it weirdly ^^
Is it misanthropy to be dissapointed in people?
I saw a comment of someone saying 'What if you don’t hate people, you’re just disappointed in people?'
And i think this is an interesting point! I would argue that beeing dissapointed absolutly fits the misanthropist philosophy. Heres why:
First of all i think it depends on what you predict will happen. someone who predicts humanity will do good, and then gets dissapointed, has little to do with misanthropy. But if someone got dissapointed so often and frequently, that they predict a disspointing event takeing place (yet still be dissapointed when it happends) fits the definition way better. Because expecting dissapointment from humans is a form of disliking humans. its a negative approach.
Yet i do see the contrary, for example in many writings by nitzsche, who certainly displayed great dissapointement in humanity, yet many say he wasn't a misanthrope. (and they argue it very well)
I would dissagree tough, and state that someone thinking like Nitzsche, who is dissapointed in humans, yet willing to help them and even sometimes is hopeful that individuals or groups can achieve greatness, can still in heart not be a fan of humans.
A simple comparison is, that i see the company apple do many great things. they contribute to open source projects, they (at least somewhat) fight the datacollection of google and microsoft. yet i dislike apple, for the inherant capitalistic company they are.
What do you think? Can beeing dissapointed in people be a reason to call oneself a misanthroist?
Perfectly valid. I identify as a mesanthrope and i mostly feel dissapointed. i dont really hate people. but i got dissapointed so often that i just dont expect to like them anymore. I hope this is a discussion we can have in this community more. Because i can dislike humanity as a whole and still be married, still go to board game night, and still volunteer to be the change i want to see in sociaty.
I personally see humanity as doomed. Doesnt mean i cant work to create some small safe bunbles for me and others, where we can be dissapointed together.
Why was this community created?
I think everyone who followed the news last year month week can understand why this community is
So yeah. Lots and Lots was going on this year for me. I really hope things will settle down here now. I quit my dayjob to focus on editing videos for content creators. its fun but not very successful yet. i must say working self employed brings a whole new chapter of stress. but at least i am not forced to smile at customers anymore, and am genuinely happy with my work. I also got married, with big party and everything. so you can imagin how effing stressful that was from an anxiety perspecitve. but my partner supported me a lot and i am very happy that its done now ^^ My big take away is, if you can afford it, definetly get a manager for such events.
As of today, my anxiety is really bad. Terrible news, and doomscrolling aside even. Last weekend i went skateboarding with a group of strangers, and i definetly pushed myself too hard. i am now chained to my bed in my dark room, recharging slowly. This was my reminder to be kind to myself, and to accept when i need a break. So yeah a mixed bag, but i feel optimistic.
Weekly Anti-Social Meet-Up. General Megathread | Week 46
Hey it is me the Mod of this Community. Phew, its been a hot minute since i posted anything. Just took a quick one year social avoidance nap (not that bad, but i had little resources left to be online)
A long time ago i did these General Discussion posts, where everyone could chit chat and share whats going on. I really liked that and want to bring it back. I wont promise to participate myself each week, such as we all should respect our social battery.
So lets here what happend in 2024?
kn the 12th century pretty much noone belived that for millenials. maybe some cult but i wont count that. flat earth theory is funnily enough a modern thing. sure it is based on medival sources, that portray a flat earth, but these were christian sources tryint to portray gods realm and earth in one picture. it was like a metaphore, and we know even the church knew, accepted and teached about the round earth.
Really depends on what you do and value. I use lots of kde software, so kde distros are my go to. then one big diffrence between distros is how they get updated. do you want the latest updates asap on the costs of stability, or do you want an effing never crashing distro but lag behind in updates a few months/years, or a middleground.
These are the two points i considered when i choose.
yeah its a cool twist kinda. people thinking of ancient rome as the pinecal of culture and the medival holy roman empire as the dark ages of humanity. yet the poop throwing myth goes into the ancient time.
Gonna be honest all my focus went into 10th-15th century, so i have little knowledge about juvenal and such ^^
This is heavily taken out of context. there is a picture source of people empting their night (toilett) bowl onto the streets onto the heads of fellow people. only problem, this source is from a saterical piece. most likely that was considered comedy back then. like porttraing a wrong world or unbelivably stupid people. we also got similar sources about people carrieing sunlight with baskets into a house without windows. yet noone acts as if that was reality (so far lol).
My tip for checking such rumours is to find actual pictures from the time. in books, or paintings, you overwhelmingly see citys with no dirt or trash on the roads. also citys streets where made of stone in contrast to modern belive.
On top of all of this we got fee letters all the way back to the 11th century, taxing people for failing to remove dung or other unpleasant stuff from their property. You could get a pretty hefty fine for beeing smelly.
Which makes sense, since medicine of the time singled out miazmas, aka. bad smells, to be the primary way of sicknes to infect humans. Medival humans were way more concerned about bad smells than we today. it was liked to the black death and all sorts of desieses.
(Thank you so much for asking, you can see i spend years of hyperfocus on this and am very passionate to fight against the "dark" middle ages picture for it simply beeing wrong) (also all i say mosty relates to the roman emoire, i know less about france)
because people keep telling me to shower xD but seriously. at no point in history did people voluntarily live in reek. since citys formed people manages human waste pretty efficently.
misconception. There are many crappy ai imges of them falling through the cathedral floor. there are sources against that and also its very illogical. church ground is holy after all. the fall was most likely outside of a building, somewhat nearby the cathedral. also based on what we know it normally didnt smell. i mean imagin living somewhere and smelling poop every day. you will find a solution to block the smell rather quickly ^^
pokemon lets go. i skipped it on release because i assumed the dumbed down mechanics are not for me as an aduld fan. but once i picked it up i like it a lot. the graphics are breathtakeing for a gamefreak ip. and the way more accessible and time saveing shiny hunting, made me commit to a shiny only run.
I gotta admit i boxed eevee eventhough i love it, because that would just be too op.
but a strong recomendation for the pokemon fan that yawns for a chill experience
Should i watch Daima?
I am watching all of dragonball on and off. I watch it chronologicly, finished dragonball, and just got through the namek saga of Z.
My plan was to continue this until i watched everything dragonball or die (whatever comes first lol)
But Daima get so much hype it kinda got me too. I dont like to be spoiled, and wanna experience the plottwists, new forms, ect. first hand (eventhough i obviously got some spoilers from memes and popculture)
Would you assume i can easily watch Daima aswell now, or could that ruin some moments i am yet to experience in Z, GT and Super?
Do any of you have a belive in who you are?
I see how that question might sound funny, but googleing, trying to find out what i feel i found this exert about a broken spirit:
"To "break someone's spirit" is to destroy their self-esteem, to take away their joy in life, their belief and joy in who they are"
And this got me thinking, because i dont belive i have such a thing. not meaning to sound edgy i am generally curious what your experiences are. I started depression quite early in life, and just thought thats normal life untill many years later (my parents dont belive in mental health. i am almost 30 now btw). i wonder if i might have missed some personal development. Normally i struggle enough to only life day by day. if i plan, i never plan further ahead than a week. and i never cared to define myself as a person. i would struggle to write a short description about me, that isnt just a listing of facts like, where i live, what i do, ect.
I also am suffering unde extreme anxieties, and belive to have some trauma thats not yet processed, if thats important to my experience here.
How do you experience self? is that a concept that can give you like joy and faith?
I am so tired of sexually charged content everywhere i look on the internet
First of i am very sex repulsed. It triggers some trauma (i am very sure i am ace anyway tho).
Seeing people sexualising themselfs or others is the worst for me. it can literally end the day for me, because i have to stay in bed for the rest of the day trying to deal with the emotions. So naturally i try to avoid that. all my friends are very suportive. On the internet i obviously dont go to places where such things might be. today i way watching roadrage videos. should be save enough right? ofc not. because some people gotta but sexualising content literally everywhere. The otherday i looked for chess openings. found a guide who ??? sexualised the chess pieces???
i am just tired. nsfw already has the majority of internet traffic. cant i just have some small portion where i can feel save?
I know i am an extreme case but it just feels so darn isolating. i am scared of joining any discord server. i used to my partner check subreddits (thankfull lemmy seems to be less bad in this regard) before joining. the internet gives potential for so much community especially for an introvert like me. but beeing so very sex repulsed locks me out of those communitys right away.
Thanks for reading. I dont think there is help or a solution. I just needed to rant to someone.
My new years drink
This year i started with a variation of an appletini (i know its not the right glass but the next best thing i had :D) Sour but also sweet with the rim especially. Great experience that i'd recomend ^^
Ingrediences: -brown sugar for the rim -1,5oz vodka -1oz sour apple schnaps -0,5oz lime juice -0,5 teaspoon granulated sugar (in the drink)
I got this one from the book "Tequila Mockingbird" by Tim Federle
(Hopefully) Weekly Anti-Social Meet-Ip. Week 34
Heyyy, I am so sorry for missing two full weeks, and barely beeing online. Tl;dr: had a bad depressive episode. Yet i still managed to read all new posts and comments in the meantime. i apprechiate all you people very much, even when socialising can be impossible. Love to you all!
Weekly Anti-Social Meet-Up. General Megathread Week 30
Hey sorry for the delay. i had no acces to a computer, and the app doesnt give me the ability to pin posts. Have a nice week!
Let's talk about the upsides of Socialanxiety
i know this sounds paradox and maybe some will not understand this (yet), but i want to shine a light on some positive side effects of this primarily negative topic.
for me, i feel like social anxiety has made me more empathetic towards my fellow humans. i work as a service worker in sales, and many of my coworkers don't care about the customers and are mostly just annoyed at them. i try to show understanding since i never know what someone is going through and how hard this shopping trip is for them. i have the motto that i want to give people around me more space, and more time to do whatever. however much time they might need. because i know i sometimes need this, and i am very happy when i can see someone who apprechiates it when i don’t pressure them to buy something. i think we all can practice a little more empathy. i imagine without experiencing social anxiety myself i would have less acceptance of other peoples struggles whatever kind that might be.
Weekly Anti-Social Meet-Up. General Megathread
Hello you beautiful people. I want to start this little experiment where i will pin a megathread each week for talking about your week, share small victories, or discuss your goals for the next week. There are no topic rules to this, any kind of small talk is welcome. :) I figured since some of us might lack a space to share about their daily life, maybe we can use such a place here.
What Are Your Go-To Coping Strategies for Social Anxiety?
I am mostly looking for healthy ways to cope with stressful situations. what do you do when the panic kicks?
Socialanxiety - a community for people stuggeling with modern social life
I wanted to create a community i was missing personally. Here people with (or without) social anxiety can discuss the topic, vent, find information or just talk in a safe space.
Link #1 Socialanxiety
Link #2 [email protected]
(hope i did the links correctly ^^") Have a nice day!
How can i help my newly created Hub to be found and grow?
Hey people! I just created the hub [email protected] since i didn't find a Hub for that yet, and feel like i have relevant experiences and want to help the whole plattform grow. Since i never created a sub on reddit or the like before, i am wondering if there are things i can do to help the Hub grow and reach the people it was designed for?
Let's Bust Myths: What Misconceptions About Social Anxiety Do You Encounter?
I think we all had these annoying situations where an uninformed people doesn't know what they are talking about. Do you have any particular one that grinds your gears?
Introduction
Hello all you beautiful people, I am glad you are here.
Who is this Hub for? This Hub is for anyone who finds modern social life daunting. It's a place to vent, forge low-stakes connections, and most importantly, a secure space to simply be yourself without judgment. Whether you've been officially diagnosed, suspect you may be dealing with these issues, or are simply seeking resources and understanding, this space is here for you.
Who runs this Hub? This Hub is created, moderated by a socialphobe who has spent several years to find their own spot in this world, and wants to help others' find their way in life, so they can feel save and fulfilled.
Why this Hub was created I realise it is a bit ironic to create a space on a social platform for people who struggle with being social. But I still feel it's relevant to have online spaces where people with anxieties can feel safer and can find community, connection and understanding.
So please feel welcome! Since this is a new Hub and not fully formed yet, I am always open to feedback, criticisms and inspirations. Feel free to reach out to me via DM or Post.
I wish everyone a nice time :)