Hi, I have a pixel 4a that I love and works great (with CalyxOS) I bought it when it came out and I really don't want a new phone, but...

Security updates from google stopped for the 4a about a year and a bit ago, and for the last year I have been slowly getting more and more anxious while trying to ignore it. I'm still getting the android security updates (software) for another year or so (thanks calyx!) But I'm not getting the firmware security updates anymore.

I'm experienced in the field of cyber security and I feel like I'm in denial because I really really don't want to buy a new phone.

Please tell me if I really should get a new phone or not...

My threat model would be just an average person but with the added paranoia of knowing too much about privacy and security, and my avoidance of getting a new phone is mostly rooted in zero-waste ideology and the pure hate towards google for forcing me to stop using a great phone that would otherwise probably be usable for another few years.

Well, I have a parent that is right on the edge of dislike that I keep them in my life for the sake of family harmony. But I consider them to be a bad person that makes me extremely uncomfortable to be around.

If you had something similar, and they died, how did it make you feel?

I'm purely curious because right now I feel like I would happy that they are out of my life, but sad for my family, but overall happier. And I want to understand if I'm being naive about the hardship of losing a parent, even a disliked one.

Saw a post without noticing the community and commented a genuine comment with good intentions.

Apparently it was against the rules of that community and I was banned.

Original post: !

My (removed) comment: !

And yeah, the last comment was sarcasm.

I just don't really understand why is there a community for shitting on Linux? Like I can get not liking it, and hating the Linux die hard fans, but it really is an amazing thing that is integral to almost all modern computing... Kind of like hating social media by having a facebook page for it.

I suspect that this is the direct result of AI generated content just overwhelming any real content.

I tried ddg, google, bing, quant, and none of them really help me find information I want these days.

Perplexity seems to work but I don't like the idea of AI giving me "facts" since they are mostly based on other AI posts

ETA: someone suggested SearXNG and after using it a bit it seems to be much better compared to ddg and the rest.

In the last year I have discovered that my childhood memories are pretty lacking, like I don't remember major life events and even whole periods of time.

The more I thought about it, the scarier it got. The feeling of having zero recollection of things that people around me remember, is really scary.

I have some psychological issues that I never really understood the root of but after this, and reading about child abuse and specifically child sexual abuse victims and the symptoms that might develop later in life. I have this feeling that maybe something happened to me, and I even have a "suspect" who is not part of my life anymore but was when I was a child.

I suspect that my mother might know something but this is too scary to ask about, and honestly, too scary to investigate because what if it's true?

Did anyone experience something like this? How did you handle it? Am I just scared because I'm missing memories and want to find a reason for my psychological issues?

Writing this down was scary, up until now this was only between me and my brain.

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I did a sperm count, it's a nice, round, 0

I just wanted people to know, this was a breeze, healed fairly well, and even though I didn't listen to my doctor and ended up having sex before it completely healed, I didn't get any adverse effects.

My experience is that if you're sure you don't want kids, just do it. It's so simple, it's worth it and I'm really happy.

I always wondered why did some startup get what seems like a specials symbol, just the letter S.

How is that decision made and why was the symbol S free? Is it really special or was it just some coincidence?

I have a Pixel 4a (with Calyx) for a few years already (start of 2021) and it's still going great. The battery is okay. Everything works nice. It's smooth. It runs everything perfectly fine.

This makes me glad to see that hardware wise this phone was really built to last, I can't even count how many times I dropped it so hard that I was scared to see the damage (which was always either nothing or a broken screen protector)

But software wise I'm screwed as security updates are already gone from Google and I only get the extended support from Calyx which will also end soon.

Now I'm forced to choose between having a phone that is insecure or buying a new one.

So thanks Google for the high quality hardware, but what's up with this software planned obsolescence??

I know this isn't exactly right to repair, but it also kind of is because if Google decided to ditch the 4a, they should be forced to open source the software so that the public can actually repair it.

I'm sure that some of their latest updates can be modified slightly to work for the 4a, but they don't care and for them this is a win-win since they don't have to maintian support and they get new customers who would otherwise be satisfied with an "old" phone.

What happened to the days when an old phone meant a phone that was already crumbling to pieces, and not a fully functional computer that is slightly older then a toddler?

I just did a vasectomy, it went great, I was fully knocked out for the surgery, no pain at all.

I just wish there were more active communities about this, I read that in the US alone there are about 500,000 vasectomies a year!

And I wish there were more detailed stories about PVPD (Post Vasectomy Pain Disorder) since most of what I found were medical research and it does seem well researched with a current statistical estimate of 1-2% of cases, I would like to know how many were long lasting, how bad, were there signs and also just personal stories.

Anyway, smell ya later!

Hi, I think in metric units, so almost everything is some form of a power of 10, like a kilogram is a 1000 grams, etc.

Sometimes I will think of an hour and half as 150 minutes before remembering that it is 90 minutes.

Does something similar happen to imperial units users? Because as far as I understand you don't have obvious patterns that would cause you to make these mistakes, right?

I strongly suspect that I have ADHD, but I can't see the benifit of getting diagnosed.

I know that if I get diagnosed and offically have ADHD I can get some medicine but I don't think I want that in any case.

Can you share your experience and what benifit you got from getting offically diagnosed?

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I have a home server and I have some HTTP services running on it. I'm thinking if I should even bother with HTTPS, as I'm already using tail scale which should be peer-to-peer and encrypted. So I shouldn't worry about any men in the middle.

Am I missing something?

It just feels wrong to work with non-S HTTP :(

Hi!

I have an HP 360 which has a touch screen and I never found a DE that is great for both regular input and touch input.

Kde is great for regular stuff but meh with touch, gnome is the other way around.

I was thinking of trying out hyperland but didn't look into it's touch compitability.

Any suggestions?

I use arch btw.

So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I'm over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can't put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn't healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!