I have 49 gb of music and at the moment i just sync it between my devices with syncthing. But i think it will be better if i stream it, as the storage on my phone is limited.
Which streaming server do you recommend?
I saw nextcloud music, but i have the feeling it's half backed and it will just clog my nextcloud install. Or supysonic? Ampache?
Navidrome has been the best that I've found. Unfortunately for iOS the airsonic clients are pretty shitty. On my own computer I just add shit to foobar directly from my nas and that works better.
I don't experience any lag at all using foobar or musicbee. I have the drives mapped to a letter, and my connection between my nas and my pc is 10g. The raid config I have about saturates that so maybe there's a bottleneck in your config somewhere