A lot of "sexy" music is just whatever beats and stuff. I'm looking for music with sounds of people fucking, especially women, or with explicit lyrics about having sex. Stuff that will really get me turned on while listening to it.
Hard mode: I'm a lesbian, so if it's a guy singing or talks about men too much that's a turn off for me ☹️
There's a great Spotify Playlist called "Bobby Hill's Sex Positive Boiler Room Set" that I subscribe to. It has all the things you mention. Women artist dominated, sex positive and horny.