try going in the Lemmy settings and select your language, but note that most of the post is marked as "undefined" so it probably won't make a big difference
I'm doing it exactly like I was doing it on reddit, that is, build up my personal home page with all the communities I want to see then I changed my settings to default to subscribed when opening Lemmy instead of All.
Every now and then I check the list of all communities to see if there's something new worth following, that way it's also easier to avoid communities that do a lot of spamming, overwhelming the smaller (more interesting IMO) ones.