What kind of a gift can you give your teacher out of respect, but that doesn’t get mistaken for romance?
What kind of a gift can you give your teacher out of respect, but that doesn’t get mistaken for romance?
A follow up from my older asklemmy post, saying goodbye to a teacher who helped me a lot through my stuff, was thinking maybe chocolate, but one of the dudes said that it’s not a very good idea, I was thinking maybe a perfume/cologne? What do you guys suggest? She is in probably in her early 20s if it helps, and I am in senior high, damn this is getting weirder and weirder, I just want to run away lol
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Eh, muffins and a card would probably work lol.
‘Good Morning, Thanks for your help throughout the session, here are some muffins’
But this could work ig, muffins are delicious and probably the simplest thing so I don’t think it’s gonna get mistaken
Exactly. Not many people use a batch of blueberry muffins as a romantic gesture but it still gets the intended point across and shows that you're grateful.
Yeah, I feel like it’s better than a pen, but I gotta find a way to preserve it in my bag for about 4hrs, assuming I am able to get them in the morning, during exams teachers are quite busy in the morning, It would probably not go bad but I feel like muffins taste best when they are warm and fresh, even after a day I feel like they are not quite as good
Drop them at the staff room with a note about who they're for.
It depends on the recipe. My mom's muffins taste good even when they've been cold for a few days so they're a really good leftover food.
The thing that you wrote in your first post on this topic is what she needs to hear. Not:
thanks for your help throughout the session
but more like:
Nobody else has been there for me this past year and I was headed down a dark and miserable path but your being here this year helped me feel that I was someone worth putting effort into. You have given me a gift that I will never forget.
That is the best gift you can give your teacher.
You keep trying to put the value in some material gift but those words are what she’s going to value.
I’m just going to say this: if you give her a card that says “Thanks for your help this session” you will have missed a beautiful opportunity. DO NOT give her that generic “thanks” message.
I was the guy who warned you about the chocolate being interpreted as romantic. But a far worse danger is going through life missing the opportunities to create beauty.
You have an opportunity to create something beautiful and meaningful for this teacher, and you’ll only achieve that by articulating exactly how she helped you.
Believe me when I say that, for adults, meaning is the thing we crave and lack in our life. Muffins can be obtained at the grocery store. A true, well-articulated and vulnerable communication of the way one has had a positive impact in another person’s life is a treat most people hear maybe once or never in their lives.
I know it’s hard. But you did a good job of explaining her positive impact in your original post. All you need to do is re-state that while addressing her in a note, instead of us.
Thanks a lot! I recently woke up from my sleep, and your point makes a lot sense, me trying to present my appreciation through something materialistic isn’t gonna work, instead of that, I should start trying to draft my card, which is both somewhat formal and gets what I am trying to say across