We may complain about VAR but this is why we have to have it. By the time we get to the first goal, the Dutch should have already scored (wrongly offside), there should have had a red card (for Ronald Koeman) and a penalty for the foul on Platt and there should have been another red card for the foul on Parker. And then the goal was scored by Ronald Koeman, who should have been off the pitch.
Regardless of what happened after, the ref had profoundly affected the shape of the match by 60 minutes in. Nobody likes VAR but this is why we have to have it.