Personally I'm fine with using lemmy, I think it's a tad confusing due to the de-centralized nature compared to reddit a centralized service. However, I fucking hate spez and his asshole nature he has been showing way more lately.
While I think it's true it does hurt the community, I think it's best if most places even smaller ones completely move off of reddit as it's really the only way to get reddit to change it's mind. If people stop using reddit, they actually lose ad revenue that is not short term. Which means they have to start making compromises. No matter what both situations suck.