Anal. How were you introduced to it and/or how did you introduce a partner to it? Tips and tricks for beginners welcome.
Anal. How were you introduced to it and/or how did you introduce a partner to it? Tips and tricks for beginners welcome.
Anal can be a contentious issue for some, mainly due to its rather sudden rise in popularity and possibility for pain and discomfort if approached too impulsively or incautiously.
I however personally think it's great, as it can open up one's spectrum of sexual possibilities and greatly enhance their existing sex life if done properly, with an open mind, patience, compassion, and enthusiasm. I've always been enthusiastic about the back door, from my well-intentioned but clumsier younger days to my modern and significantly wiser days.
How have you been introduced to it or introduced partners to it? Self-experimentation? Using online resources as a guide? Advice from friends? What were the valuable things you learned along the way?
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My first anal experience was with my first girlfriend and I think not in a very good way. Not a catastrophe, but some things could have been better. First mistake was bringing it up while already making out. She was assertive enought and would have said if she didn't want to try it, but with today's experience I think it's far better to speak about things with a clear head. Second I possibly was a little too selfish while doing it and not care giving enough afterwards. I'd blaim my own insecurity on this but retrospectively it led to no great memory what should have been one.
Years later I introduced another girlfriend and even later my now wife to anal and it was great! We communicated things early and clearly and didn't hurry things afterwards.