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I know it's not the first time you have read this, but please if you can join me by leaving a comment below. This is something I want to do for the whole community and for the future because I feel it is important for men to feel confident in themselves and to be seen as equal members of society. It comes from my understanding of the ways that society has historically framed gender, and how that framing has affected our brains and ultimately how we see the world.\n\nI would like to start off by saying thank you to everyone here for taking time out of your day to answer these questions. Being a dad is awesome, and I love learning about all of you and your perspectives. Being a retriever myself, having a conversation with a man about gender really opened my eyes to the ways in which gender has been socially constructed. I would love to know if this is something you have been on the hunt for, or if you have found it for you yourself. Thank you to all of you, I hope you intensely enjoyed reading this. \n\nWith regards to the title, I am a guy who works with boys and girls. When I say I work with boys, I mean that from the start of my career, as a teenager in the 90s I worked as a hair stylist, model, and head of hair for many years. As I gained more experience and became more confident in my craft, I also gained the confidence to be myself. That being said, I have always been interested in being a part of this community and wanted to come here and share my experiences with a mostly male audience. I have done my best to be candid and honest with this because I want to help other men feel confident in their own existence, be they a boy or a girl. \n\nI am a father of boys and a middle school teacher. I have always felt that as a man I should be handling my own gender transition like a man, talking to my wife about how she should present herself in the bathroom, brushing her teeth, etc. But what I did not prepare was talking to my wife about what being a dad was going to mean for her, her family, and her friends.\n\nShe has friends that are girls and they all transitioned at different times in their lives. Some have boys and some have girls. Some have boys kids and some don't. I just didn't know until after she had kids, when she was still in her early 20s, that it was going to be so different for everyone. And it's made me wonder if friends who had kids and didn't, how they handled the change.\n\nHas anyone else felt like they were left out or left behind because they weren't gender specific? Or was it just a personal preference?