Finally chose the girl character when I was away in college and figured it was less likely people would know. Of course next time I see my best friend, he wants to trade pokemon and teased me for using a girl character with a feminized version of my name. Was almost a decade later when I considered I might not be cis.
Well, there’s also the fact so many cis men use female characters in games for many reasons like cooler armor etc. And they’re still cis, so you feel like « that’s not an indicator of being trans » but here we are…