Reminder for all you "thats just normal human behavior" types
Edit: I just learned from a comment on another post here that it's literally the only rule for this community. Thanks @[email protected] for taking out the trash.
I just ran into several comments all saying this. If you're going to be policing this community for "normal human behavior" you've certainly got a lot of work cut out for yourself. Almost everything about ADHD is an exaggeration of normal human behavior, we don't randomly tweet like birds or wear silly hats, it's the exaggeration that makes it a disorder.
It's also really invalidating and it's the same gaslighting crap that we've had fed to us by jerks our whole lives.
Yeah, the amount of people saying and upvoting that stuff is just depressing. Hopefully things get better with time. I have no problems with people thinking that stuff and being corrected from time to time but multiple people saying that stuff under every x post is just too much.
I think it's because a bunch of people are just looking at the everything feed instead of just their subscribed comms (myself included), because it's easy to handle right now with lemmy not having an enormous userbase. But these people obviously know where they're commenting if they're saying that.
I mean I don't come into your house and basically tell you you're just imagining your problems. It's ableist as shit.
There's also the fact that a lot of people have undiagnosed ADHD which makes them think that we're just making stuff up when in reality they're also affected by it.
Yeah, those I do have some sympathy for because they're still living life on hard(er) mode but no matter who you are it's the sheer volume of knee-jerk reactions that's annoying.
I looked at your profile and caught some of the nuked comments you made in that same thread I came from. I totally agree, it's really frustrating to see disinformation repeated a bunch of times with many upvotes, show up with an actual informed opinion, and people downvote you like crazy in minutes.
Another thing I dislike about the situation is the fact that it's hard to figure out which feedback is actually correct/good when there's a lot of misinfo with way too good ratio. On reddit there were a lot of well informed people and people didn't just get thrown adhd post into their faces when they're not subscribed to it. It would have been really good if there was a way to limit the view of the community/posts to prevent all those comments.
I really like the way it's put in the post about the rule, but it's a lot to ask people to casually read if they're not part of the comm. I see it as growing pains, so I know once lemmy is past the point of being easier to browse everything than curate your subscriptions and watch for new communities it will improve.
Plus the mods at the ADHD were like hardcore bouncers on steroids when it came to maintaining a healthy community for the intended audience. That's not a comparison with db0, I know almost nothing about him(?), but I certainly like his self-described FAFO policy about breaking the rule.