This is gonna get quickly out of hand... there should have been an announcement that you should NOT join the most popular instances and just scroll down the list to join an instance that is preferably at the very bottom of the list.
same, I'm always in places like this, my e-mails are all from cock.li. I just love giving someone something like "yeah hi, e-mail me the job offer to [email protected]". And together with being a bit annoyed at the inefficiency of other lemmy instances and how much they focused on which political party and ideology they should follow, this one was a breath of fresh air :)
PS. I still find it to be the best working instance out of all that I have tried. The big ones are slow, the small ones have wrong setups and are buggy, this one is just perfect 💯